Okay, okay…I know it's Thursday, and I know I'm behind on my blog posting, but I'm enjoying getting my life together. You know how people say, "What do you want to be when you grow up?"? Well, lately I have been taking some time to really answer that question.
There are so many aspects of our lives, and I tend to want to fix ALL of my parts all at once. That just isn't possible, and this is part of me growing up: realizing that we take things one at a time (or two or three…but not ALL!). How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time!
Along those lines, I have some updates on my life to share. You know me…I LOVE to live outloud, mainly for the accountability, and also in the hope that I can encourage others to, well, for lack of a better cliche, seize the day!!
{animal scale…too funny!!}
First of all, I have to lose weight. Are you as sick as I am of hearing those words? That may just be me, but I don't really want to lose weight…well, I do, but I don't want to have to do what it takes to lose weight. And that's the truth!! There is a time, though, when you just have to bite the bullet and do what you don't want to do so you can live easier later! So, I will be a little bit more sporadic with my cooking out of the Pioneer Woman cookbook…*sigh* so sad!! I've decided that until I work a ranch or farm, I just can't eat like Ree and her family!! 🙂 It's okay…I'll be okay…maybe!!! Stay tuned on random Tuesdays for a Tutorial Tuesday, and updates on our BRT Biggest Loser contest!! yipeeee…gonna be svelt, gonna be svelt!! (have to say that out loud so I'm forced to actually do this!!)
Second of all, I want to continue in my quest for a better marriage!! Both Mr Gorgeous and I are happy…and we love each other very much. But you know if we don't work on our relationship, things fall apart very easily! So, I've joined…
The Wives' Club
The Wives' Club is a group of ladies that are meeting at our church in Stafford, TX to listen and discuss teachings on how to fulfill our role as wives. It's exciting, it's encouraging, and it's life changing!! If you are near this area, I encourage you to come by Brighton Church Monday nights at 7:30pm for the next 5 weeks to fill your tank full of wonderful wisdom for your marriage!
If you aren't close by, or just can't get away on Monday nights, don't give up hope!! I've been given permission to reprint my notes from Pat McClimens' teachings each Wednesday right here on my BLOG…
starting right now!!!
To start a wonderful relationship, we start with God's foundational laws…
First and foremost:
***Grow, first, in the LORD!!***
Matt 6:33 – Seek first the kingdom and his righteousness will be added unto you…YOU are His righteousness!!
2 Pet 3:18 – Grow in the grace and knowledge of the Lord!
Any source that helps you grow in the Lord is good! Sermons on tape, books, straight Bible study, praise tapes…whatever it takes!
then … ACT upon it!!!
Maintenance is an important aspect of relationships…[i add…otherwise we fall to chaos!]
**1 Pet 3:4**
"Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight."
God desires us to have a gentle and quiet spirit! This isn't an unhealthy meekness or cowardness..but an ASSURANCE (my fave word in the study so far!) in GOD!!
Ask, Seek, Knock!!!
Now, in a marriage, we are WORKING AS A TEAM. There are always positions (roles) in a team.
Here are our roles:
the HUSBAND's Roles:
1. to lead – Eph 5:22-24, Col 3:18
Remember, submission…NOT as the world defines it, but as GOD defines it!!
{I believe God defines it like this (by sally)…we listen to what our husbands say, offer our opinion without arguing or nagging, then we stand behind our husbands no matter what they choose to do. If they choose to follow our advice, okay…if they don't, okay, too! This is God's definition…that we honor our husbands, and we honor God, in the process of honoring our husbands. It's a powerful trio, for sure!!}
2. to provide – Gen 3:17-19
Men are to work!!
3. to love his wife – Eph 5:25, Col 3:19, 1 Pet 3:7
[these are wonderful scriptures for husbands!!]
the WIVES' Roles:
1. to help her husband – Gen 2:20
work out the plan of God…willing and cheerfully….*as unto the LORD!!
2. to submit to her husband – Eph 5:22-24
it's not our place to tell him what to do…but ASK him!
3. to RESPECT her husband – Eph 5:33
(this is the #1 thing a MAN desires…RESPECT!!)
4. to Love her husband
cherish him as your best friend!
******your assignment is not to CHANGE your husband******
Prov 14:1 -
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
Here are some practical things for you to do this week:
1. Thank your husband for live out his role!
2. Ask him how you can help him!
3. Show great respect for him: a) speak sweetly; b) don't put him down to others!
4. Plan ways you can have fun together.
5. Pray to be able to follow God's plan for your marriage.
Join in the conversation…leave a comment or question here so we can talk about this OUT LOUD! You are now part of the club…and I'm thrilled to have you here with me!! :)
